Friday, October 17, 2008

Is it worth taking the risk to date your best friend?

I have these five of friends, we are very closed with each other ever since we were from primary school. We infact have been in the same classes almost every year up to secondary school. After that we went into different paths but we still keep in touch until now. The three of them now are studying in the same university but different course. Two of my friends are studying elsewhere. We constantly go out together, dinner together and almost every week without fail.

Our friendship holds strong until today but yet within the circle of friends there's always ups and downs. We even share our thoughts and knowledge. If one person is sick, the other person will give a helping hand. Where one person is sad, the other person will ease down that person. Most of the time things are fine between us. Never get into fight as far as I am concerned. But within its reach and grasp, there's some event that causes it fasten on the subject matter.

Until this week, I just noticed something rather awkward is happening between us. I'm not in the state of denial but one of my friends likes another friend within this circle. It happened few months ago and I thought it was a joke but rather it turns out to be otherwise. X likes Y but Y doesn't want to prejudice Y's friendship with X just because X likes Y. X has been given some 'hints' to Y but rather Y doesn't want to go into it. Lets just be friends sort of way.

What troubles me is what if they get together and when some event occurs they break up. Wouldn't it be troublesome? Wouldn't it will prejudice our friendship and their relationship? Wouldn't it cause difficulty? I'm not saying that they don't need to be together but how far will it stand? I'm okay as long as they are okay and supportive with one another, then that will be fine to me. I'm against nothing.

There's always some pros and cons when dating your best friend. Some says it is the best decision ever made. It makes your friendship stronger. It eased the awkwardness and made us laugh harder together. Some said the friendship can never be completely the same again after you break up, well only after that then you will know.

As for my sister, 21 years old she has been in a relationship for almost 4 years until she broke up early this July. She rarely communicates with him ever since and the worst part of it, he asked to give back his so called grandfather-father-son ring from her. As for my younger sister, 17 years old she just ended her 3 years relationship last week.

I've never been in a relationship with my best friend and I do not know what is the outcome of it. To me, I dare not to take the risk and silly to think of it to be in a relationship with my best friend. Well that's my opinion and I have nothing against you people. After all we are just teenagers, there's a looonggggg way to go.

What about long distance relationship? hurmmm

8 comments:

fiqss said...

geeeeez. tough one here.

some say ure the luckiest when ur lover is ur bestfriend.

but there's always the part where u mentioned 'Some said the friendship can never be completely the same again after you break up'

if u choose to take the risk, u must be willing to jeopardize the friendship, knowing that it might not work..or work.

if u choose not to take the risk, then what if ure actually letting the best relationship of ur life slip away? what if both of the boy-girl like each other all this while but no parties would like to confess first?

all this is too complicated to understand. haha. but just know that if ppl are meant for each other, things will work out.

long distance relationship? whooaaa rashaad. now thats another story! lol

p.s. regarding ur frnd's case.. i say if Y doesnt like X, then X better not make a move =S

raja izzati said...

eh sapa yg u maksud kan nih? i ke? hahahaa. kidding!

Pisey said...

perghh..that's tough.

yup.it's worth the risk to date ur bestie.org kate jodoh takdir d tgn Tuhan=).

in X n Y case,
i think X shud undrstd dat Y doesnt want 2 ruin da frenship.
n for dat statement,means Y doesnt really like X in dat kind of way.
becoz if Y do like X,then Y will juz go with the flow with X.

haha.peninnye mau taip.

juz a thot of mine^^

shakinakush said...

lalalaa.
hrm, lets talk bout it later in more detail.

Adlyn Farouk said...

i did it once, no good.

Anonymous said...

xsenonoh kau chad citer pasal ak kat blog ni..haha..

Ahmad Rashaad said...

hey sorry Y, i thought it's a good thing to write something here. well at least for being the most sincere thing to say eh? :) i hope X doesn't read this if not i'm totally dead!

Ahmad Rashaad said...

anyway thanks fiqss, raja izzati, pisey, shakina, adlyn and Y for your concern and opinion regarding the situation. i have read them and definitely Y has something to say about it. :P